Love and hate!!....

Love and all that fluffy stuff in the honeymoon years....soon turns to tears and hate for many!!..... ....I think my break up will happen in the next couple of weeks...we've agreed when he goes to work away...he don't come back!!..... ...He goes away next week...I am preparing my soul for his departure!!....

Anyway....read this...first down....((the lovey years))....then up....((the hatey years))...

John.....Ah...at last!!...I can hardly wait!
Jane.....Do you want me to leave??
John.....No!!...Don't even think about it!!
Jane.....Do you love me??
John.....Of Course I do!!....Always have..always will!!
Jane.....Have you ever cheated on me??
John.....No way!!...It's awful to even think about it!!
Jane.....Will you kiss me??
John.....Oh yes...every chance I get!!
Jane.....Will you hit me??
John.....Hell no!!!...Are you crazy??
Jane.....Can I trust you??
John.....YES!!
Jane.....Darling!!

Now read back up!!

Thanks Kitt!!.. ...part of me is excited!!...part is afraid that I have underestimated the pain involved!!.... ...

"Breaking up is hard to doooo"....

But...as Rudyard Kipling would say...Love and hate are very like Triumph and disaster!!.....and treat the two imposters as the same!!...

IF.....


IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

I'm not getting heavy...I promise!.. ... .....wot....I'm not!!!....

...bless you Kitt!!... ...I know it's right!!.....he's horrible!!... ...yes...IT'S a poem!!... ...isn't it lovely!!..

.....I don't want a new fella...just some time on my own!!....

Yey Kitt!!....I'm looking forward to it!!..Meeeee time!!..... ...sorta!!

...Lets!!..well fank you mam!!..... .....and I hope I get me a real nice puddinham to boot!!...... .......... .....

..I think I wanna dance now!!....(((Tom Jones)))....

GO LETS!!...

Listen to the ground:
there is movement all around.
There is something goin' down
and I can feel it.

On the waves of the air,
there is dancin' out there.
If it's somethin' we can share,
we can steal it.

And that sweet city woman,
She moves through the light,
Controlling my mind and my soul.
When you reach out for me
Yeah, and the feelin' is bright,

Then I get night fever, night fever.
We know how to do it.
Gimme that night fever, night fever.
We know how to show it.

Here I am,
Prayin' for this moment to last,
Livin' on the music so fine,
Borne on the wind,
Makin' it mine.

Night fever, night fever.
We know how to do it.
Gimme that night fever, night fever.
We know how to show it.

In the heat of our love,
Don't need no help for us to make it.
Gimme just enough to take us to the mornin'.
I got fire in my mind.
I got higher in my walkin'.
And I'm glowin' in the dark;
I give you warnin'.

And that sweet city woman,
She moves through the light,
Controlling my mind and my soul.
When you reach out for me
Yeah, and the feelin' is bright,

Then I get night fever, night fever.
We know how to do it.
Gimme that night fever, night fever.
We know how to show it.

Here I am,
Prayin' for this moment to last,
Livin' on the music so fine,
Borne on the wind,
Makin' it mine.

Night fever, night fever.
We know how to do it.
Gimme that night fever, night fever.
We know how to show it.

thedelboy wrote:If you need time away pm me, no strings just as a friend I can perhaps help either financially or as a shoulder to cry on(wish I had one when Mary and me split) When Mary and I split up it was a bolt out of the blue (I had to stop ballroom dancing as my osteoporosis hurt to much)Mary told me that she was holding me back? that I needed a younger person to make me happy!(I loved her and still do) Mary still does my cleaning(Ipay her for it) she cooks often the only thing we do not do is make love So it is only a word "SPLIT UP" ok its 2 It does hurt at the start you wonder if you have done something wrong , if you could have done better;should you try to woo her back ? I have been so sad for the last 18 months due to this !
I have one good thing she is my best friend!!!

...Aw!!....thats really sad Delboy!!... ....and very very nice of you to offer me so much support!!... ...(((big cuddle)))).....I will bear that in mind and if you ever wanna talk just PM me!!....perhaps we can help each other!!.... ....I'm glad you're still friends...that's uncommon after a break!!..... ....but lovely to hear!!...

thanks Delboy!!.......

Tytonidae wrote:

jezebel wrote:Love and all that fluffy stuff in the honeymoon years....soon turns to tears and hate for many!!..... ....I think my break up will happen in the next couple of weeks...we've agreed when he goes to work away...he don't come back!!..... ...He goes away next week...I am preparing my soul for his departure!!....

Anyway....read this...first down....((the lovey years))....then up....((the hatey years))...

John.....Ah...at last!!...I can hardly wait!
Jane.....Do you want me to leave??
John.....No!!...Don't even think about it!!
Jane.....Do you love me??
John.....Of Course I do!!....Always have..always will!!
Jane.....Have you ever cheated on me??
John.....No way!!...It's awful to even think about it!!
Jane.....Will you kiss me??
John.....Oh yes...every chance I get!!
Jane.....Will you hit me??
John.....Hell no!!!...Are you crazy??
Jane.....Can I trust you??
John.....YES!!
Jane.....Darling!!

Now read back up!!

I think this not coming back from working away is a very good way of ending it but my view is not to drag out the goodbye when he leaves, not to have constant contact when he's away and above all, if this try goes wrong j ez and you can't quite stick to it, be kind to yourself and try again for the finish. Sometimes the real 'over' happens after a couple of actual attempts. Something should just die and then it gets easier. All the best brave lady

I completely agree with you Ty!!.... ..we've already had a few bungled attempts!!.....but I am seriously coming to the end of my tether!!...Thank you for your sweet and kind and very wise advice Ty!!....

Syl wrote:Hiya Jezebel, I really feel for you. The final ending of any relationship must hurt, especially when you once had such love for a person. But not everything lasts forever, and sometimes its best all round to move on and start afresh, ...with someone else hopefully one day.
I worked with a lady once who was dogged with depression, she had been unhappily married a very long time. Someone told her it seemed like it was her OH who made her miserable. It was, and she left him, not easy after 30 plus years.... Anyway she restarted her life, changed her house, her job, and suddenly she realised she did'nt suffer from depression anymore.

Why stick around if someone is making life intolerable? I doubt whether he is happy either. I wish you BOTH a good future. xxx .

That is a very re-assuring story Syl!!.... ...I just wish wish wish...it woz easier!!.... ....I have these flare ups but with him finally going away.....and agreeing to the break up....I'm nearly nearly there!!.....He hurts me so much!!... ....And you're right... I hurt him too!!....bless you for your good wishes..thanks Syl!!...........

Syl wrote:Hiya Jezebel, I really feel for you. The final ending of any relationship must hurt, especially when you once had such love for a person. But not everything lasts forever, and sometimes its best all round to move on and start afresh, ...with someone else hopefully one day.
I worked with a lady once who was dogged with depression, she had been unhappily married a very long time. Someone told her it seemed like it was her OH who made her miserable. It was, and she left him, not easy after 30 plus years.... Anyway she restarted her life, changed her house, her job, and suddenly she realised she did'nt suffer from depression anymore.

Why stick around if someone is making life intolerable? I doubt whether he is happy either. I wish you BOTH a good future. xxx .

That is a very re-assuring story Syl!!.... ...I just wish wish wish...it woz easier!!.... ....I have these flare ups but with him finally going away.....and agreeing to the break up....I'm nearly nearly there!!.....He hurts me so much!!... ....And you're right... I hurt him too!!....bless you for your good wishes..thanks Syl!!...........

...double post!!...sorry!!
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letitbe wrote:Peace and love baby doll. You come across as a fighter. Life will get better I promise, Being alone alone is better than being alone with someone.

Aw chucks Lets!!.... ...yes...I am a fighter!!....Like lots..I've had to fight all my life!!....but that last bit makes HUGE sense!!..... .....thanks Lets!!...

...snot easy guys..but thankyou!!....... ...the abuse I am suffering is insufferable!!.......

olly69 wrote:my queeeen off with his head
you should not except abuse

....... .....Yes!!!!.....off with his blooming head!!!...I like that!!!.........

Okay....serious update!!... ....he's not going away til next week now.......and 'm gutted....we row tooooo much and he's gotta go!!.... ..........Perleeeeease!!!..........

Thank you Olly!!...... ......and Lets!!......ha ha!!.... ..I like it!!....shall I use my teeth!!.....

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeoning of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.


Just for you j`ez ... in your troubled times ... hope they get better ... keep smiling .... I will try to help you with some jokes ........

...bless you soooooo much Bravo!!.....

I like this song, and find the story of Heathcliffe and Catherine fascinating:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvBfG0aGjFg&feature=related

I don't quite yet have that skill that converts the link to image and thence to ease of access.

Thanks, Lulu, and the practice will bring success upon my efforts.

Shine wrote:I don't quite yet have that skill that converts the link to image and thence to ease of access.

Shine..... ......neither do I!!....... :pix: .....but we shall learn the art of this elllusion!!...... ......(((with lulus help)))....Lu??....ladder picture???.......

Shine wrote:I like this song, and find the story of Heathcliffe and Catherine fascinating:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvBfG0aGjFg&feature=related

Beautiful.....sad....... .....Just watched it.......I can work with links!!.....

i love love and hate hate ........deep i know ........annnnnd relax

Always makes me nervous when you use words like deep outside of the Old Boneyard

wen i broke up wiv the ex .....she told me to fuck off.......job done ......but i do think that the title page is very clever.